Refusing to talk about sex means you are leaving your sexual satisfaction to chance.Now that you’re here, let’s talk about how communication about sex is needed in that your relationship, whether it is sex-filled or sexless.Celibacy is a thing. And premarital sex is a thing as well. This is not an article promoting or downplaying the importance of one over the other. If you have chosen one over the other, you must have your reasons for doing so and that’s just fine.Why you should talk about sexFor those who choose to wait till the night of their wedding and those who can’t wait till then to unbox the package, a refusal to discuss sex as openmindedly, fearlessly and with a view to improving will lead to the same thing – frustration, dissatisfaction, resentment and a whole lot of negative vibes thrumming through that relationship and whatever it morphs into.Failure to talk about sex means you are leaving your sexual satisfaction to chance and guess work.While it is true that sex with the same person will somehow get better with time even if you do not talk about it, intentionally communicating about it hastens that process of understanding and the betterment that happens as a result.That sexual spark, the attraction that flares in the pit of your stomach when you look or get very close to your partner is actually great. It means you are sexually attracted to them. But if that’s all you rely on to keep your sex life going for the long haul, I’m sorry that won’t do.Without communicating your needs, and the things that pleasure and delight you, without building a sizzling sexual chemistry through communication, that sexual attraction will soon fizzle out.How to talk about sexWith your partner with whom you’re already having sex, or whom you hope to do it with, discussing sex and how you like it should be as openmindedly and fearlessly, even as explicitly as possible; with a view to orchestrating the orgasmic bliss you’re yet to find, and improving on the ecstatic experiences you’ve already had.Aim to not be judgmental and to not be childish about it. Either of these will make your partner clamp up and could cause them to never express their deepest desires, or ever live them out.And until your partner becomes comfortable enough to tell you every sexual thing they want to do with you, you may never achieve the maximum pleasure possible with them.And what a terrible shame that would be.

A girl who suspects her boyfriend might be sleeping with his cousin raised alarm on social media.It appears that several Nigerian youths have been engaging in incest secretly with several cases coming out everyday.This lady has come out to insinuate that her boyfriend might be having s*x with his cousin. She is scared of confronting him as she continues to live in fear.Relationship blogger and adviser, Joro Olumofin has published her story and the reactions have been massive.Read the details below:

According to reports on social media, a man couldn’t afford a vehicle to convey his wife on their wedding day, so he used his motorcycle.Love is blind and selfless they say and the scenario above seems to affirm this assertion.This not-so-rich-man carried his newly wedded bride on an okada as they got married, and the lady was happy about it.She was pictured smiling in excitement as people around her took pictures. The front of the bike carried the placard which read, ‘Just Wedded’.

Relationship adviser, love doctor and online psychologist, Joro Olumofin has shared the story of a lady who wants to sleep with her uncle.According to her, the man is a politician and he is very rich. She claims that his wife is not good-looking and needs advice of social media users on how to get the man.Read her story below;

Joro Olumofin, Relationship expert and psychologist, has revealed twenty things men shouldn’t do or ask when they meet a Lady.Read below;1. Men shouldn’t look at their phones more than the Lady while on a date2. Don’t Talk about your Bank account or how much your father has ; this puts ladies off (Bragging)3. Smelling Bad ( Mouth or Body Odour is a No. No)4. Don’t ask ” are you a virgin?”  Don’t ask her how many guys she’s been with ( Body Count)5. If she’s going to pay for the movie or dinner let her know in advance ( no unexpected ATM failures, I forgot my wallet at home)6. When your phone rings on a date and you’re asked where you are? Don’t give a degrading response eg ( I dey with that big ass babe, I dey with tolu big Breasts, I dey with that weekend chops I teh u about”7. Don’t insist on a “come to my house first date” or come to my friends house first date8. Don’t leave your date to talk to another Lady for more that 2 minutes9. Don’t buy her too many gifts she may think ure trying to “buy” her .10. If for any reason someone else needs to be in the car, don’t put her in the back seat11. Don’t compare her to your Ex12. Don’t talk about her weight or hair in a negative way eg ( some guys may say : ure about to burst out of that dress, your hair should be due by now ?)13. After the first sex always call as a courtesy (whether the sex was good or bad)14. Table manners ( don’t make sounds with your mouth while eating, don’t talk while there’s food in yourmouth, don’t use fork and knife for ice cream)15. Focus your eyes on her eyes not her breast or ass. ( don’t look at any other lady asides her on adate)16. Projecting yourself as someone you’re not (Ladies can spot fake confidence, or a fake in general)17. Don’t borrow ur friends car and say it’s yours, don’t lie your friend’s apartment is yours.18. Don’t be too touchy & feely on a first date.20. Don’t be rude or nasty to the waiter or waitress to impress your date.21. Don’t ask her for money.22. Don’t ask for pictures unless she offers

Relationship blogger and consultant, Joro Olumofin, has shared his opinion on ladies who ask guys for money.According to him, asking guys for items like underwear, iPhone, Hair, Makeup kit won’t change the life of any lady or make them reach their self-actualized State. Instead he advised ladies to ask for things like land, employment, Business Capital or Partnership that will transform their lives.Read his post below:I don’t approve of Ladies asking Guys for money. I believe men and women are equal, feminists even advocate equality between sexes but I’m very disappointed at the requests a lot of ladies make on their Boyfriends or Suitors. Most ladies make requests of items that won’t change their status quo or current state permanently.For example (1) Hair (2) Iphone (3) Dubai Ticket (4) Makeup kit (5) N50,000 / $200 (6) Hair Net (7) UnderwearThese items won’t change your life or make you reach your Self Actualized State.Please ladies from now on, if you’re the TYPE to ask guys for Things.Please ask for (1)Land (2) 500k Loan (3) Employment (4) School Fees(5) Business Capital or PartnershipAsk with a purpose if you’re going to ask for anything at all, don’t ask to remain the same, ask to change.

Daddy Freeze has revealed that engaged couple having sex is not fornication because the word fornication comes from the Greek word ‘pornea’ which means prostitution or LovePeddler mongering.Read his post which he attached biblical backings to…An engaged couple having sex is not, has never been and can never be FORNICATION!.–The word that king james translated into the English word Fornication is the greek word ‘pornea’ which meant prostitution or LovePeddler mongering. At no time was pornea associated with a young couple who are engaged and having sex, that’s the English definition by King James who many believe, with alleged historical evidence, was either gay or bisexual himself.–The greatest prostitution (pornea) is idolatry which is practiced in many churches today, where the congregation idolizes their pastor to the point where they choose him over God.–Here is what the Bible says:–◄ Hebrews 13:4 ►King James BibleMarriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.–Although many translations have substituted the words ‘fornication’ and the phrases ‘sexual immorality’ and ‘sexual sins’ for ‘pornea’ its wrong, here King James has the closest translation ‘LovePeddler mongering’ which means patronizing prostitutes and practicing prostitution which is actually what Pornea means.–The Old Testament is even clearer on this, as prostitution is likened to idolatry.–◄ Ezekiel 23 ►New Living Translation[19] Yet she turned to even greater prostitution, remembering her youth when she was a prostitute in Egypt. [20] She lusted after lovers with genitals as large as a donkey’s and emissions like those of a horse.[49] You will be fully repaid for all your prostitution—your worship of idols. Yes, you will suffer the full penalty. Then you will know that I am the Sovereign LORD.”–◄ Hosea 1:2 ►New Living TranslationWhen the LORD first began speaking to Israel through Hosea, he said to him, “Go and marry a prostitute, so that some of her children will be conceived in prostitution. This will illustrate how Israel has acted like a prostitute by turning against the LORD and worshiping other gods.

Media Personality Bolanle Olukanni has an advice for women who think to be a slay queen is all that matters.Bolanle took to her Twitter to share her thoughts saying pepper dem gang is another way of calling yourself proud and materialistic. She also warned ladies not to look at this as the ultimate but be careful with the way they carry themselves.See a screenshot below.

Love doctor and online psychologist, Joro Olumofin has explained that a woman should tell her lover the number of men that have slept with her.   Relationship expert, Joro Olumofin is out with another relationship advice for ladies.   This time, he says a man deserves to know his woman's body count from her.   Read below:   "If you've been dating a guy for at least 6 months he deserves to know your Body Count & S*xual Activity History. For a relationship to Reach its Self Actualized State, honesty and full disclosure is paramount. A lot of ladies hide their ages and number of sexual partners from their boyfriends. This is wrong. Your boyfriend deserves to know your Body Count (BC) and (SAH) sexual activity history if you're not a Virgin. He should also share his. This will bring a blank slate ( Tabula Rasa ) into the relationship. A true man is meant to take you as you are with every line and curve. Sit your boyfriend down and tell him today."  

According to relationship expert, Joro Olumofin, men have seen how women are desperate to get married, hence, they are now using marriage and ring to manipulate them into having sexual affairs. He wrote: Things have changed, the Value of men has gone up. This is only because a lot of ladies have attached marriage to their success and happiness in Life. Men are now fully aware that most ladies need them to feel accomplished. A lot of ladies have their fixed wedding dates & Aso ebi colors without boyfriends.  Men now use the M $ R words (Marriage & Ring) to manipulate and control women into sex and making downgrading compromises. Ladies, Dictate the terms of your happiness, don’t lose focus when you hear the word Marriage.